This week I asked my daughter as well as a co-worker of mine to score me on the three tests that scored my communication skills. Here are the results:
Verbal aggression: 66/65/68 The results were overall that I am a respectful communicator.
Communication Anxiety: 42/31/46 The results showed that I am not as anxious as I may feel I get when talking to a group of people. This also showed me that while I may feel anxious other people do not see that in me as much as I feel it in myself.
Listening: 39/34/34 people oriented. I feel that I must agree with this score, I am a people person!
What surprised me this week is that all the scores were close, and that all the scores came up with the same results. I sometimes feel that I do a good job communicating, I feel that I do try to reflect and improve my skills, so it was nice to see that other rated me the way I rated myself. As I mentioned before I was surprised to see that other rated me as being confident when speaking to groups. I feel that maybe I place that anxiety on myself and other may not see it as much as I feel it.
What I learned this week is that it is important to understand how others perceive your communication skills. If I would have scored differently than my daughter and co-worker, it would have given me a chance to evaluate myself and find out what I could change to be better. As a professional working in the field of early childhood I feel that we are always communication to people. By reflecting my own communication abilities, I can build or grow in these areas. After taking the anxiety test I also feel that I would be less anxious and more confident to talk to a group of parents or professionals.
I feel also that just by taking the tests I understand more personally about the way I communicate with others. I do agree with the results. Understanding how I communicate with others can help me understand if I need to change the way I communicate, or how I communicate with others.